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Self-respect is a good human virtue. People with self-respect always have an accurate way of seeing things and phenomena, thereby giving appropriate behavior to help preserve dignity and honor for themselves. However, when a person exaggerates their self-esteem they become egotistical. Egotism will cause bad effects on our work, life and even our psychological health.
1. Conceit is not always a good thing
A study has shown that pride is not always good and healthy. Researcher Michael Kernis, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Georgia, in a press release: "Those with fragile self-esteem often compensate for self-doubt with exaggerated tendencies. to protect and enhance self-worth". High self-esteem can become harmful when it is accompanied by excessive defensiveness, such as lashing out at others when one's beliefs, statements, or values are threatened by others. According to Kernis: "We don't think there's anything wrong with someone wanting to feel good about themselves. What we mean is that when feeling good about yourself becomes a major inclination for them to feel good about themselves, they do. tend to be overly defensive and egotistical, self-esteem may become more fragile and psychological benefits will be limited."
2. Harm of egotism
The harmful effects of conceit and egotism can be mentioned as:
People who are egotistical or like to brag, do not want to learn from others and do not want to be criticized and suggested by others, thereby leading to to subjectivity and failure in life. Arrogant, egotistical people are often shunned by people, are not trusted and trusted, gradually become isolated and do not receive support and help from others. Pride will generate jealousy, making you often compare yourself with others, feel like you're falling behind, and eventually get stuck and feel like a failure. In addition, people with high self-esteem always look down on and underestimate others and as a result receive failure due to their subjective, "contempt" habits.
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3. How to build self-esteem properly?
3.1. Affirm your worth
Reflect on what you're doing well. Remembering how you helped a neighbor or assisted your boss during an important meeting can help you focus on your own contributions rather than your shortcomings.
3.2. Pay attention to your own needs
If you always care about the needs of others but forget about your own, you are underestimating yourself. Taking more care of yourself and focusing on your daily routine can help you fight negative thoughts and build self-worth.
3.3.Spend time with those who love you
There's nothing like being surrounded by people who always love and support you. Seeing yourself through the eyes of people who care about you not only helps you appreciate your unique qualities and perspectives, but they can also help curb your egotism by how to give honest comments and suggestions.
3.4. Challenging negative thoughts
Suppressing too many negative thoughts can have bad effects on our mental and physical health. Try to beat negative thoughts in the following ways:
Learn to forgive yourself Writing down negative thoughts can help us to simply observe them. Review what has been learned and focus on the positive.
3.5. Stay away from troublesome situations
If you are surrounded by people who are only trying to find your flaws or vice versa, people who flatter you all day and make you become egotistical, it could be a sign that you should find a better working environment.
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3.6. Reflect on the achievements
You have a right to celebrate your successes and be proud of what you've accomplished. However, you also need to remind yourself to learn to be humble, not to be too conceited about your achievements.3.7. Practice meditation
Meditation not only helps to create a state of balance, tranquility, dispel stress and fatigue, but also helps to increase self-confidence and self-esteem.
3.8. Work with a qualified therapist
Talking to a qualified therapist can help you explore your fears and insecurities. They can also help you navigate through situations that lower your confidence.
The disease of egotism is not without a cure. Let each person learn to be humble, to see things more thoroughly and deeply. You must know your own strengths and weaknesses so that you can practice and constantly improve yourself.
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References: webmd.com, healthline.com
