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Puberty is a sensitive period. At this stage, children need a lot of attention and sharing from relatives, especially parents. Talking to children during puberty is not an easy task that any parent can do. Making friends and confiding with children during puberty requires parents to have skills and perseverance to implement.
1. Difficulties faced by parents when learning about their children's puberty
It can be said that puberty is a difficult period for everyone. Entering puberty, everyone has to go through a series of changes both physically and psychologically. Psychological crisis occurs in many young people, leading to behavioral disorders, affecting not only themselves but also family and friends.
The psychological and physiological changes of puberty are very complicated, not all parents are patient enough to understand and listen to their children.
Difficulties of parents in confiding, contacting and educating their children at puberty:
At puberty, most children think that they are adults, so they really want to live and act like adult. They have their own personal views, their own ways of thinking, and their own desires. Children want to decide everything for their own life, want to show bravery, so sometimes they won't listen to their parents. The irritation of parents in such times will invisibly create a distance between parents and children. A difficulty that almost every family faces is balancing work, family and children. There are many parents who are busy making money, struggling with work, and have no time for their children. There are some parents who believe that as long as they are financially stable and provide their children with all the things they need, they will grow up healthy and happy. They do not even have time to talk to their children, do not care to share, do not know what children are going through, do not even know how much their child is in a state of psychological crisis. Disagreement between two generations. Most parents think that I have gone through puberty, so I understand all the thoughts of the children and the other thoughts of the children because they have not had any life experience. However, this is not entirely true. With the same incident but at different times, different environments, and different eras, the thinking, expression, or story development will also be different. To put it simply, in the 2000s, having a bicycle to go to school was good enough. But at present, going to school must have an electric bicycle or motorbike. Therefore, in order to be able to confide in children during puberty, it is necessary for children and families to understand each other better. Parents, please spend more time with your children, confide, talk, share with them the physiological and psychological changes during puberty.
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2. What do parents do to confide in their children during puberty?
Conflict between parents and children occurs a lot when children enter puberty. The main reason is that parents do not fully understand the thoughts and wishes of their children. Sometimes parents are not really skillful in communicating and educating their children. In order to make friends and talk about puberty with their children, parents need to note a few things:
The first thing to do is for parents to spend time with their children. Less work each day, have a time dedicated to children. Parents can play, watch and learn together. This helps shorten the distance between parents and children, gives children joy, and creates children's trust and peace of mind with their parents. In order to properly teach their children, to talk to their children, parents themselves must also agree in their communication behavior and methods of educating their children. Sometimes, conflicts arise because the parents themselves do not agree with the way the other party's children are raised. Always observe every gesture, action, observe what happens in the child's daily life to be able to assess and understand the child's development process, and promptly detect negative expressions in the child. Parents should fully equip themselves with knowledge related to their child's puberty. From the changes in the psychophysiology of puberty, how to set situations, handle situations, and prepare psychologically for children, parents need to know. Teaching children needs specific plans, skills and methods to be successful. If parents are too stubborn, conservative, forcing their children to follow their will, it will not only cause friction, but also easily lead to wrong behavior of children. If you see a child showing signs of psychological or behavioral disorder, it is necessary to be closer to the child and pay more attention to them, comfort and encourage them, and find ways to help them overcome the difficulties they are facing so that they can think positively. than. Parents should not make children feel controlled or forced. Children are growing and they need their own space. The fact that parents interfere too much in their children's private lives, control all their relationships, read diaries or view phone messages without their consent... These things will make children feel uncomfortable, Even resentful with their parents, children distance themselves from their parents, gradually withdrawing themselves, sometimes hating their loved ones, feeling that they are not respected. Listen, acknowledge instead of hastily rebuttal. When children share personal views, whether it is right or wrong, parents should record those thoughts and then analyze them for children to understand. Early rebuttal will not work, but will also make children resolutely defend their views, conflicts will occur. Sharing your puberty time with your child is one of the easiest ways to approach children. In the process of making friends, confiding with children, parents' words are very important. Should avoid hurting children with careless words...
3. Suggest some phrases parents can use to talk to their children during puberty
Tell me I should instead of I have to. I don't think it's wrong, but we think it's better if you do it like this. Daughter, you're in the fairy age and you're growing up. Don't be afraid of being fat, try delicious foods. Learning is important. Take care of your studies so that when you grow up you won't have any regrets. Don't worry, your parents are already here. You just lean on the parent's shoulder if you need to... There are many sayings that parents can use when educating their children instead of getting angry and yelling at their children. However, doing this is not so easy. Parents not only have to confide in their children, but also have to understand, sympathize, be calm and patient when their children are not right or make mistakes.
Hope the information in the above article has helped parents understand the physiological changes of puberty so that parents can easily talk to their children during puberty. If you have any questions, you can contact Vinmec doctor for specific advice.
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