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Feeling left out is a difficult experience for everyone and is very common in practice, such as being excluded from group activities or being isolated. Facing a situation where you have been abandoned can lead to a range of volatile feelings such as sadness, anger, and confusion. However, at some point, everyone has to receive rejection from others, so the following ways can help you overcome feelings of abandonment and maintain balance in your life.
1. Accept true feelings
It's important to be honest that it's completely normal to feel uncomfortable when someone is excluded from a certain activity, even if they don't do it on purpose. Issues such as discomfort when co-workers drink coffee every morning without inviting you or feeling lonely when you find a chat group without your presence are a basic human emotion. In any case, taking time to clear your emotions and decide what to do next is what you should do instead of hanging around with negative thoughts. Things you can do to relieve your emotions include: Journaling, exercising, going for a walk, or simply breathing deeply.2. Avoid jumping to conclusions too quickly
Acknowledging an unwise event can put you in an unwarranted negative state, so can the feeling of abandonment when people exclude you from their activities maybe just for the sake of good for you or have problems they can't invite you to join. It is not uncommon for a person to immediately conclude the worst when faced with an unexpected problem, the emotional stress then takes away the sanity needed to rationally explain the situation.
So instead of letting fear take over your mind, try to think logically and consider other angles and evidence of things. If you truly believe that people abandoned you because they really don't care about you, then consider whether there is any evidence to come to that conclusion, rather than just an unexpected situation. However, even if you come to the final conclusion after careful consideration, sometimes things still don't go as you think and being overly negative can affect your relationships.
3. Review how to express your desires
If you find that a certain group of people regularly excludes you from their activities, you need to reconsider how you express your desire to participate through communication and body language that is really appropriate. appropriate and clear or not. For example, if you have a habit of crossing your arms during conversations, there's obviously nothing wrong with this, but it can make you appear closed off and don't want to talk to people even when you don't think so.
Another situation is when you have too many tasks to do and forget what is happening around. Like when your friends are planning an activity and you don't have any feedback that you want to participate in it, it makes others think that you are not interested. It is impossible to judge how others feel about yourself especially when you have so many relationships, so advice from a loved one can be a solution to what you are experiencing. right.
4. Convey your feelings
One-way view of the situation makes the story more difficult to judge, so when you feel left out, having a frank talk with the people involved will help you understand the problem better. When conveying this feeling, you should talk more about your own experience to avoid the other person feeling accused, and at the same time, all problems should be said clearly instead of causing generalization. misread.
Nói chuyện thẳng thắn với những người liên quan khi bạn bị bỏ rơi
5. Always remind yourself of your worth
Believing that you are not suitable for the work environment or are often abandoned by people around you will make you wonder why no one wants to spend time with you. This will seriously reduce your confidence and self-esteem, causing your morale to become low. Positive self-talk will be effective during this time to restore your confidence and self-confidence. Besides, being more confident also opens up new opportunities by actively participating in the events you want instead of waiting for invitations.6. Do what you feel comfortable doing
The reality is that you don't always get a satisfactory explanation after being dumped, even if the other person didn't mean to do it or even if they really wanted to exclude you from the events they attended. However, that's not to say that it's your fault and that getting hurt and angry will only spoil the mood instead of bringing positive things. Instead, do the things you enjoy with other people you know, like watching movies, chatting or having dinner together to regain balance in your life.7. Actively accept invitations
One of the most common reasons why people don't invite you to participate in their activities has to do with the past when you regularly turned down invitations in the past and they assume that you are not interested in the activities. do this. To overcome this, the simplest way is to proactively suggest to others that you are ready to join them or actively create opportunities for communication to increase the affection between this relationship.8. Share with trusted people
When you feel left out, talking to someone you trust like family or friends can help a lot. Whether you receive the right advice or not, talking to them will relieve some of your psychological pressure. The presence of these conversations also reminds you that you have other relationships to cherish and nurture instead of people who have cut you out of their lives.
Hãy chia sẻ với người đáng tin cậy về cảm giác bị bỏ rơi của bạn
9. Make more friends
If your current relationships aren't providing the timely companionship and emotional support you need, it may be time to consider new relationships that align with your goals. Building relationships with people with similar interests or in a study or work environment will help improve feelings of abandonment or even form close relationships that you did not expect.10. Chat with an expert
In some cases, the loneliness in your life combined with your experience of social abandonment affects your mental health. At this point, you should look to a therapist for solutions such as:
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