Toxic people: Signs to know

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In life, sometimes you may encounter toxic people without realizing it. Toxic people can create tension, conflict, and conflict in social relationships. They often put their personal interests first and bring emotional or even physical pain to others.

1. What is a toxic person?

If someone is causing a lot of trouble and conflict in your life, you are probably dealing with a toxic person. These people can create stress and discomfort for you and everyone around you, bringing not only emotional pain, but even physical pain.
Toxic people can include anyone like a toxic relative, friend or anyone whose behavior adds to the negativity and turns your life upside down. Many times, toxic people also have to deal with their own stresses and hurts.
Toxic person is not considered a mental disorder, but it can have underlying mental problems that cause a person to act in toxic ways, which includes a personality disorder.
Here are some warning signs that you're dealing with a toxic person:
You feel like you're being manipulated into something you don't want to do. You often feel confused by that person's behavior. You feel like you deserved an apology from that person (but never happened). You always have to defend yourself against this person. You never feel comfortable around them. Constantly feeling bad about yourself in their presence. If you've ever experienced these feelings around someone, this indicates that you are dealing with a toxic person and want to change or end your relationship completely.

2. Signs to identify toxic people

You can identify a toxic person through the following signs:
Inconsistency: In life, sometimes we may encounter ups and downs, good times and bad times. However, for a toxic person, they are often never consistent. The behavior of the toxic person is very erratic, not living up to their commitments or promises. You also won't be able to predict what they plan to do next. This inconsistency may cheer you up for a moment, but become disinterested soon after.

Toxic people always need your attention Have you noticed that this person always needs something from you? It seems that toxic people always need emotional support. They can take everything you have with no return. Toxic people often have a high degree of self-interest and always display their greatness in order to be affirmed by others. This may be related to narcissistic personality disorder.
The life of toxic people always has many negatives Toxic people often appear in dramatic and negative situations like in a movie. They inflate emotions and create unnecessary conflicts. They even like to stir to see a "tragedy comedy" about to take place. These subjects are considered toxic because they are not interested in a stable and healthy level of relationships.
Not respecting other people's boundaries One of the other signs of a toxic person is not respecting other people's boundaries. If you've made it clear over and over again to the person about your needs, but they still don't respect you, that's toxic. A healthy relationship will be based on trust and the ability to respect each other's boundaries. However, for malicious people, they cannot do that.
Manipulating others to your will Do you feel you are being taken advantage of or manipulated? Toxic people love to manipulate those around them to get what they want. They always lie, bend the truth, exaggerate or reveal information so that you can take an action according to their will. In addition, toxic people will do anything to achieve their goals even if it hurts others.
Substance Abuse Another manifestation of a toxic person is the frequent abuse of substances such as alcohol and drugs. These behaviors become toxic when the person repeatedly harms others and even themselves while using drugs.

3. What do you need to do to deal with toxic people?

Now that you know the signs of a toxic person, both in how you feel and how they act, you still don't know what to do about them. Here are some effective strategies to help you deal with toxic people:
Confront Toxic People As soon as you notice toxic behavior, confront the person. You should talk frankly when they have any lies or conflicts, even saying that you don't appreciate their behavior. This will help them see that you're paying attention and give them a chance to explain themselves or apologise.
Set tighter boundaries If you are dealing with toxic people, try to set tighter boundaries. For example, if the person is abusing drugs and causing harm to you or others, let them know you won't see them unless they are sober. In addition, you should also be adamant that you will not tolerate acts of being too hysterical or spreading false rumors about their people. You should also limit the time you spend with toxic people unless they change themselves.
Remove the toxic person from your life If the strategies above don't work or are even causing you a lot of pain, it's time to let the toxic person out of your life. Sometimes, there's nothing we can do but accept, stand up for ourselves, and move on. You shouldn't let toxic people influence or disrupt your life.
The above are signs to identify toxic relatives or friends, colleagues... You can apply them to evaluate and see your relationships better.

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Reference source: webmd.com