Should you have oral sex after giving birth?

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Having a baby is a wonderful and life changing experience. Taking care of a newborn can have a serious impact on your sex life. In order for the couple's love life to flourish, couples often prefer new experiences, such as oral sex. However, is oral sex after giving birth safe? This is the concern of many new parents.

1. What is oral sex? Oral sex is known as oral sex. This is a way of making love that is no longer strange to many couples.
Instead of fondling common sensitive points such as breasts, skin, lips, oral sex focuses on the movements of contact with the genitals (penis, vagina) of the partner, bringing about feeling fresh, full of pleasure in a way that is unique to both of you.
2. Benefits and dangers of oral sex Oral sex can bring unexpected psychological and health benefits to couples. Many studies have shown that safe and regular oral sex will bring you great things such as:
Helps you reduce fatigue and stress: With a different experience of oral sex, Not only will you feel easier to "climax", but it can also help you relax, relieve more fatigue at work, especially after giving birth, you are easily stressed and exhausted. Health... Improve the body's immunity: Having sex 1-2 times a week can increase immunity because this process helps to create new blood cells. Make you more confident in yourself: Some studies suggest that people who appear very confident have satisfying and regular sex habits Your pelvis will be more resilient: One benefit great for women. Having sex with lots of movement is like playing sports. Doing this regularly will strengthen the health of your pelvic area. Improve sleep: According to research, when sex reaches orgasm, the production of more oxytocin will promote a feeling of sleepiness. Relationships will help you sleep better and deeper. Increase Intimacy: Having a baby puts you full-time and focused on the child, affecting the sex life as well as the emotional well-being of couples. Oral sex is seen as a relationship enhancer and intimate connection is shared with the other person. This period of time is completely private for each other.

However, oral sex also carries certain risks, such as:
Oral sex can lead to oropharyngeal cancer: Not every oral sex will cause cancer, however the cause is caused by a person infected with the human papillomavirus (HPV). The virus can be passed from person to person during sexual intercourse, including oral sex. The HPV virus is one of the causes of oropharyngeal cancer. The risk of cancer is not increased if you are not exposed to the HPV virus during oral sex. People who have oral sex with at least 6 different partners have a higher risk of oropharyngeal cancer. However, compared with causes caused by factors such as smoking and alcohol consumption, doctors say that throat cancer caused by viruses is easier to treat. One of the ways to prevent oropharyngeal cancer from oral sex is the HPV vaccine. Oral sex carries some risks such as contracting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) including syphilis, HIV, herpes, gonorrhea, hepatitis that can be transmitted through oral sex. According to experts, oral sex is not safe sex. This is just a form of sex that is safer than other forms of sex, but there is no absolute guarantee of safety. In addition, many different factors also contribute to the risks, such as age, gender and specific oral sex acts you perform. You can use a condom that covers your penis, or a plastic or latex "mouth guard" placed over your vulva or anus to reduce your risk of STIs. 3. Sex changes after childbirth 4 to 6 weeks after giving birth, you can have sex again. You should have sex when there is no more vaginal discharge after giving birth. Regardless of whether they had a cesarean section or a vaginal birth, all postpartum women go through this phase for a few weeks afterward. Having sex before the discharge stops carries a risk of infection.
If you had multiple stitches during delivery, being able to resume sex can take a long time. Unhealed stitches are at risk of coming apart. If that happens, see your doctor right away.

After giving birth, your sex life will also be affected. Specifically:
3.1. Lack of sleep makes you lose sex drive For new mothers, fatigue is the biggest obstacle to being able to enjoy sex. In particular, babies often stay awake to feed every two or three hours. This will last for many months. About 30% of babies don't sleep through the night until they're 9 months old. At night, you continue to take care of the baby, leaving you exhausted and without a sense of desire.
Not only you but your partner can also be tired. But men are still more interested in sex. For them, it's often a way to relax and help feel emotionally close to you. It doesn't take long for them to start having sex. In contrast, most women need conversation and foreplay to become aroused.
According to experts, if you are tired of not getting your sex life back, the first thing you need to do is share it with your partner so he can understand your thoughts. Plus, you can ask your partner to babysit so you can rest and get in the mood. Alternatively, you can have sex early in the morning. You should ask for help from relatives, friends or hire a babysitter so that the two of you can spend some alone time together.
3.2. Hormones Affect Sex Life After Childbirth Hormones are also a part of sexuality. Estrogen levels drop after giving birth. That can cause a lack of vaginal lubrication, making sex painful or less pleasurable. A simple solution for you is to use a topical lubricant during sex. Experimenting with different positions gives you more control during penetration.
If lack of lubricant makes sex painful or if sex causes pain for another reason, explain to your partner that you need time to get ready.
According to experts, lubrication problems usually go away after you stop breastfeeding or after your period returns. Hormonal changes after childbirth may also be linked to postpartum depression, which can suppress sex drive. Feelings of sadness, anxiety, or irritability can last for weeks or even months. Talk to your doctor if you are having these feelings, especially if the condition worsens or if you feel hopeless or sad most of the time.
3.3. Breastfeeding affects sex life Breastfeeding has many benefits. But it can create some difficulties as you try to get on with your sex life.

Dedicating large amounts of physical and emotional energy to raising a baby can interfere with a nursing mother's access to her mind and sex drive. Your partner will feel that you are abandoned and no longer spend much time with them. Kindness is just as important as passion. Let your partner express these feelings, so you can work through them together.
Constant breastfeeding or pumping can make your breasts so soft that you don't want to touch them. Stroking a nursing woman's breasts can cause her milk to release, which can interfere with both partners. Orgasms can also sometimes cause unintentional lactation. If you're concerned about leaking or burning, try holding on to your bra during sex.
3.4. Body changes from the inside out During pregnancy, a normal weight mother usually gains about 10kg. It can take some time to lose that extra weight after your baby is born. Add new stretch marks and a new scar if you've had a cesarean section and it's not uncommon for many women to report feeling self-conscious and even depressed about their current body.
If you feel insecure about your appearance, share this with your partner. Positive feedback from them will make you feel better. Enlist your partner's help in working towards your body transformation goals. For example, you could exercise for half an hour while they babysit or for extra help with meal prep. Plus, you can buy some lingerie that makes you feel sexy while hiding your body's flaws.
Another physical problem is that vaginal delivery often stretches the vaginal walls, which can reduce friction and thus reduce sexual pleasure. It can take a while for those muscles to return to their original state. For some, it may never be possible to go back to the way it was.
Try some Kegel exercises to tone the pelvic muscles. Repeated tightening and loosening of those muscles can also help with wound healing after a vaginal tear or episiotomy.
With all the changes that can happen to your body, do your best to embrace them as part of motherhood. If you're still having trouble continuing with your sex life, aside from the physical problems, it might be time to look at what's going on emotionally in your relationship.
Ask yourself, “What makes me so uncomfortable that I don't want to express intimacy with my partner through sex?.
One of the typical emotions is feeling angry or frustrated about having to stay home to change diapers all day while your spouse gets back to life and does “normal” things like working outside the house. and talk to others. Unusual emotions are often caused by physical self-consciousness and mental fatigue. Many of these problems can be solved when you share them with your partner. Relying on your partner's support helps to make it clear to both of you that you're in this situation together. Sex is about pleasing each other and there are many ways to do it.

If you are not interested in having sex the traditional way, you and your partner can try another method, such as oral sex. This helps you feel closer to your partner.
4. Should you have oral sex after giving birth? Oral sex and other forms such as masturbation are considered safe when performed a few days after giving birth. They can also be a good way to share the pleasure with your partner while you wait to have sex the traditional way. If you have an episiotomy or vaginal tear, make sure your partner avoids contact with the area so as not to disrupt the healing process.
You may be concerned that bacteria in your partner's mouth could increase the risk of infection, but you needn't worry as long as the irritation is completely external (in other words, getting into the surrounding area). your clitoris). Keep away from vagina and perineum.
And if you are thinking of wearing tampons to stop the flow of lochia - postpartum discharge during oral sex, you should reconsider this. You shouldn't put tampons or anything else in your vagina until your doctor tells you to (usually after 6 weeks) because you could get an infection.
Pregnancy and childbirth change your body a lot, so it's a good idea to spend about 6 weeks recovering before having sex again, including vaginal or vaginal sex. mouth.
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Reference source: babycenter.com, webmd.com