The sexual needs of men and women differ significantly. Consequently, women often seek to understand men's desire cycles and how to recognize signs of their affection when in love.
1. Causes of desire in men when in love
Desire is defined as the need for sex, which typically begins in men around puberty at approximately age 16.
The cause of this physiological condition is due to the high concentration of testosterone hormone every time it is stimulated, increasing the desire to have sex.
2. The Stages of the male desire cycle
The hormone testosterone has the effect of stimulating the desire of men and the amount of hormone secreted will change depending on different circumstances and ages. Therefore, depending on each stage in life, the desired cycle of men also changes.
2.1. Stage from 20 to 30 years old
During this period, testosterone levels in men are at their highest, which corresponds to a peak in sexual desire. Statistics indicate that men engage in sexual activity more than 3 times a week, and many may feel desire at any moment when they are with their partner.
2.2. Stage from 30 to under 40 years old
The first half of this stage is from 30 to 35 years old when sexual activity is at its peak. After a long period of sexual activity, men can assess their sexual needs and focus on aspects that contribute to achieving the best quality. At this stage, the frequency of sex will be stable and best for health, 2-3 times/week.
However, when passing the age of 35, testosterone levels gradually decrease, leading to a decrease in sexual needs. On average, they will have sex only 1-2 times/week or less. In addition, there are also physical disorders such as spermatorrhea, wet dreams, etc.
2.3. After the age of 40
From this age onwards, men's desire will decrease rapidly. The cause of this problem is due to the impact of age and the effects of some problems in other organs also contribute a great deal. At this time, men often only have sex 1-2 times/week, especially for those with erectile dysfunction, it is only 2 weeks/time.
3. When are men most desired during the day?
Understanding the idea desired time of men will help them understand their bodies better and women can also grasp the right time for "love".
- Morning wake-up: After a long sleep, blood circulation returns, causing most men to wake up in a "saluting" state.
- At night: testosterone levels increase, making the body more eager. Consequently, “engaging” in intimacy during this time helps reduce stress and promotes a good night's sleep after a long, hard day.
- When watching romantic movies with your lover: The desire in both sexes becomes more stimulated than ever during this time.
- After an argument or anger: Men will tend to want to make up with their woman by rewarding her with passionate "love".
- After a long time without sex.
4. Signs to recognize a man's desire when in love
To recognize the signs of a man wanting sex, you just need to pay close attention to the following characteristics:
4.1. Passionate gaze with hot eyes
Eyes are something that reflects what a person is thinking in his head. This is a sign that is very difficult to hide when a man has a desire to have sex. He will look at the person he loves without taking his eyes off and often focus on sensitive areas such as lips, bust, and buttocks with a look full of desire. This is also the first signal when he is next to his girlfriend.
4.2. Licking lips frequently
The cause of this sign is that when the body is increasing desire and becoming excited, it will make the guy's lips dry. Therefore, men often lick their lips when they have desires.
4.3. Eliminate all distance with you
As desire increases, he will proactively find opportunities to reduce the distance between the two of you so that the two bodies can be closer together. For example, accidentally touching each other or leaning closer when talking. In addition, some other expressions may include stroking hair, holding hands, touching thighs, or putting arms around your waist from behind. Even more daring will give a passionate kiss and touch your body.
4.4. Breathing becomes more rapid
When men begin to have the desire and make gestures of touching or contacting their bodies, their breathing will be faster and their body temperature will also increase slightly. The reason is that when the need increases, more blood flows into the body and stimulates the heart to beat faster, and breathing increases. On the other hand, the brain also stimulates the production of testosterone, causing the body to increase from 0.5 to 1 degree and the skin becomes redder at that time.
4.5. Saying sweet words
When desire arises, men will not hesitate to tell girls naughty words that stimulate the other person such as "I want you", or "Your three curves are so attractive", …
4.6. Trying to pamper you more
Men who have desire when in love will try to show it through their gallant and pampering actions. Specifically, pampering you more than usual such as feeding, shopping, and taking you home, ... These are considered signs that he is trying to "seduce" you into a love affair.
4.7. Penis becomes sensitive
When hugging his girlfriend and performing affectionate actions with each other, you will subtly realize that his "penis" is becoming sensitive and ready for a passionate love affair.
5. How to control men's desires?
When in love, the rise of men's desires is completely normal according to human physiology. However, we are not always ready for love, because our love is not strong enough or for other reasons. Therefore, tactfully refusing "that thing" is also a way to be polite and help your boyfriend not feel discouraged when being with you.
5.1. Avoid wearing sexy clothes
When you are not ready for that thing to happen, you should avoid wearing revealing clothes when meeting each other. This is the first condition that causes desire stimulation and makes the man's instincts rise. In addition, he will understand that this is a signal that you are trying to invite and promise a passionate love affair. Therefore, you need to grasp this psychology and choose discreet outfits for dates when you are not ready.
5.2. Limit going to places with only two people
A quiet, private space with only two people will be a condition for love affairs to easily arise between two people through actions such as hugging, kissing, touching, etc. Therefore, if you do not want things to go too far, you should not choose such places or you can refuse to meet there. On the other hand, you can suggest some crowded places such as coffee shops, restaurants, walking on the street, etc.
5.3. Do not mention sensitive topics
When in love, a man's sexual needs can be heightened when engaging in conversations about sex. Therefore, when you are together, it's best to avoid discussing this topic. Additionally, refrain from actions that may stimulate his desires, such as caressing his body, hugging, or kissing passionately, etc.
5.4. Interrupting his desire
Guys tend to want to be close and get closer to their lover, this is a catalyst leading to sex and even they find it difficult to control this situation. Therefore, when your boyfriend gives you passionate and affectionate kisses, take the initiative to stop at the right time by cleverly blocking the hand that wants to touch your body.
This action will interrupt his emotions and more or less hurt him and make him complain. Therefore, you need to refuse tactfully and can be accompanied by sweet acts of affection to soothe.
5.5. Share your true views
All of the above methods are only temporary solutions to control a man's desire when in love. Therefore, to have a more sustainable and connected relationship, you need to frankly share your needs and views for your boyfriend to understand.
If you feel unready, express openly and honestly that you aren't prepared for intimacy yet. It should occur when the love between you both is genuinely deep. At that time, sex will become the spice that makes love more wonderful. A man who truly loves will not hesitate to respect and indulge you. This is also considered a test for your man to see if he is tolerant enough to accept a long-term commitment with you.
Recognize men's desire cycles will be the key to a sweet and lasting love, and is also an indispensable spice to happiness in love.
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