This is an automatically translated article.
The honeymoon phase is known as the happiest stage of a relationship. Especially for newly married people, the honeymoon period is the happiest, best time, nothing let you down. However, this phase will not last forever.
1. What is the honeymoon phase?
Honeymoon phase is the first stage of a new relationship, things often bring exciting feelings when you bond and love your partner. The honeymoon phase, also known as New Relationship Energy (NRE).
As Neil Wilkie, psychotherapist, relationship expert, and creator of the online therapy platform The Relationship Paradigm says, “It's as if you're both in a magic bubble. . And the rest of the world doesn't get in because you feel so connected."
2. Where did this term come from?
The word “honeymoon” is a modern version of the Old English term, “hony moone”. It seems to have been first used in the 16th century, referring to the fleeting sweetness of a new marriage.
The "moon" aspect is said to be related to the brief period in which married couples experience this joy. This period is calculated as about one month.
In fact, people tended to use this phrase in a negative way centuries ago, reminding newlyweds that their current happiness won't last. So it makes sense that modern English has added the word “phase” at the end to further emphasize how short that period of time can be.
Of course, these days the "honeymoon phase" doesn't strictly apply to marriages. Any new relationship or milestone can spark it.
3. Are there any studies that prove this?
You may have trouble finding the term “honeymoon period” in the scientific literature, but its effects are well documented. Therapeutic relationships and life researcher, Pascale Lane explains, "The scientific name for the honeymoon phase is 'lime,' which is basically excitement and a flood of chemicals for a while. long time."
"Limerence" was coined in the 1970s in psychologist Dorothy Tennov's book, "Love and Seduction: The Experience of Being Loved".
She describes it as “an involuntary interpersonal state that includes acute craving for emotional responses, obsessive-compulsive emotions and behaviors, thoughts and emotional dependence into others”. And the combination of powerful hormones appears to fuel this stage of desire.
Wilkie says: “Science shows that this is the time when the feel-good chemicals, dopamine and oxytocin, are flowing in the brain. Falling in love is exciting but also stressful. After all, the normal patterns have been significantly disrupted.”
Indulgence during the honeymoon period was also found to be associated with increased levels of a protein known as growth factor. It helps nerve cells in the body grow and function and may promote feelings of euphoria, according to the study's authors. Even the fleeting nature of the honeymoon phase
A 2015 study found that, after 30 months of marriage, marital satisfaction declines for most women.However, the majority of men reported satisfaction levels. theirs is still stable.
Thời kỳ trăng mật được gọi là giai đoạn hạnh phúc nhất của một mối quan hệ
4. How long does the honeymoon phase usually last?
No set duration - everyone is different. Tennov estimates that quicklime lasts about 2 years. But others note that the honeymoon phase can sometimes only last for a few months.
Taylor Sparks, sex educator and founder of online intimacy store Organic Loven, notes that it depends on how much time the couple spends together.
5. Does everyone go through the honeymoon phase?
Some people may never go through the honeymoon phase, instead they will experience a slow passionate relationship based on both interests and enjoyable experiences. A healthy, long-term relationship is built on more than just initial passion. And you get to experience elements of an explosive honeymoon during your time together, rather than an intense explosion at the outset.
6. How do you know if you're in it - are there any signs?
Rachel Vida MacLynn, psychologist, member of the British Psychological Association and founder of Maclynn International says: “It's not hard to tell if you're in this phase. "You're going to want to spend all of your time together, and the intimacy between the two of you is something new and exciting," MacLynn says.
Another sign to watch out for is how your partner is feeling, according to Sparks “Everything they say or do feels like a butterfly in the belly and a gentle ventilation to the head.”
7. Does the honeymoon phase have to end?
Every expert we spoke to had the same answer: Yes. Lane said: This phase is necessary to form a relationship, however, it will not last forever. The adrenaline will help both of you stay excited and in love. However, it is necessary to end it and in many respects, it is only after this phase is over that the real relationship begins.
Basically, the newlyweds who want a long term relationship have to work through difficulties together - never had them in the first place, but some people develop a kind of dependency on feeling. They may "jump from relationship to relationship just to get to 'honeymoon climax,'" Sparks notes.
8. What happens next - are there other stages?
According to MacLynn, scientifically speaking, the increase in hormones will decrease and “you will see that things are not as they were before.” You may start to notice some annoying traits your partner has and may want to start spending more time with people outside of the relationship.
But as Sparks says, “there are better things to come after the honeymoon. Love comes only with the known, which means you have to know the person in order to love them. "And that will take time.
Ultimately, the goal is to form a deeper attachment, paving the way for a healthy relationship, full of trust, and the ability to resolve conflicts.
9. What can you do to maintain this energy?
First, try to accept that the honeymoon phase isn't sustainable, says Wilkie. Then, focus your energy on “creating a future together where you both fit in and work on six key elements.” These are:
Communication Relevancy Pledge Pleasure Growth Trust Of course, there are many ways to keep your relationship blasting.Lane says couples should try to prioritize each other as much as possible. make time to eat together, laugh together and hang out together and make time for intimacy.Sparks also recommends being open about sex, be it posture, voyeurism, exhibitionism You should proactively ask your partner “what do they like?”
Vui chơi trong giai đoạn trăng mật
10. What if affection still fades over time?
Spending time together, whether it's going on vacation or doing separate hobbies, can give you time to miss each other, if only for a few days. Having separate interests also gives you and your partner something new to share.
Sparks explains: “You can see their excitement through their eyes and applaud when they learn or enjoy something new.” Adding to the thrill can also help revive a relationship in other ways. MacLynn recommends planning date nights that are different from your usual routine.
MacLynn adds: “Make a reservation at a special restaurant, plan a surprise, do your makeup and make it romantic. “Flashback to the early days of getting to know each other and get back that primitive magic.”
She also talks about adjusting to your partner's or partner's love language. “If it’s physical contact, they might want a romantic massage,” says MacLynn. Or perhaps they would love it if you wrote them a poem or love letter, or even a special gift box with memories from your relationship.”
Sparks adds: “Once we've been in our relationships for a while, we can become lazy to compliment or admire what excites our partner.
Sparks says: “Go to a private bar or club and watch each other flirt and get caught by others. When we see other people being attracted to our partner, it can be in a strange way to know that they are still desired by others. Sometimes, that attention gives us the opportunity to ask our partner what the other person has said (or done) that they find interesting, and we can adjust to do the same.”
In the end, however, the matter of relationships is about communication. Remember, “talking to each other openly and honestly is not only essential to a healthy relationship, it's also incredibly sexy.”
11. What is the bottom line?
Have fun during the honeymoon period, but we know it's not meant to last forever. “When the honeymoon phase is over, the relationship is going from magic to reality,” says Wilkie. And that's never a bad thing." To maintain a lasting relationship, understanding and sharing is still important. Try to do those things together for a lasting relationship.
Hope the answers to the above questions have helped you better understand the honeymoon phase and nurture and promote the best marriage relationship with your partner.
Follow Vinmec International General Hospital website to get more health, nutrition and beauty information to protect the health of yourself and your loved ones in your family.
Please dial HOTLINE for more information or register for an appointment HERE. Download MyVinmec app to make appointments faster and to manage your bookings easily.
