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Certainly none of us can avoid sadness and feelings of heartbreak, loss, hurt. Comforting someone who is sad seems simple, but it is a big problem for many people because they do not know what to say and how to do.
1. How to comfort someone who is sad?
Grief is a negative emotional state, occurring without any order or rules of right and wrong. Everyone can be sad for different reasons or even just have nothing to do, no one to understand and sympathize makes us feel sad.
When others experience grief, they will often feel depressed, cry, tell stories or complain a lot. This can make those around you feel uncomfortable, tired, and uncomfortable. Even though we know we are not the ones who cause them sadness, we can still be the ones to comfort them and help them calm down a bit. That's the best way we should do to help our loved ones who are in trouble.
Here are some ways to comfort others:
Tell someone who is grieving that you are there for them: When someone has lost a loved one, let them know that you care about them and are comfortable. Please listen to their feelings during this time, this is one of the ways to comfort when a loved one dies. We all understand that grief is a long-lasting negative emotional state that can't be overcome quickly. It can take a long time to learn to live with it, and it may never go away completely. While many of us worry about what to say to someone who is grieving, it's actually more important to listen. Usually, well-intentioned people avoid talking about the loss or change the subject when it comes to the deceased. Help them share and open up: This is one of the ways to comfort someone who is sad. While you shouldn't force someone to open up, it's important to let your grieving friend or loved one know that you're there to listen if they want to talk about their grief. Talk frankly about the cause of their grief and hurt. And when it feels appropriate, ask sensitive, unnoticed questions so they can openly express their feelings. Simply by asking, “Do you feel like talking?” You are letting your loved one know that you are available to listen to them. Tell your friends to share their grief with you or their friends, family, and other members of society. That will make them feel lighter, more comfortable, the feeling of sadness will also disappear from there. Let them feel empathy: One of the ways to comfort someone who is sad is to let them feel empathy. Be there and let them know you are ready to be there, to listen and understand their sad story. You may not be able to help them deal with or get out of their grief, but being there to give them a chance to share has been a huge help. Because just the feeling of having someone by your side to sympathize and understand your heart is also an extremely valuable spiritual gift that everyone wants to have. Be honest: Remember that openness and sharing must come from the most genuine feelings. If you feel uncomfortable or don't know what to say, tell them. Don't make them feel fake or forced, it will only make their sadness heavier. Focus on listening to them: Listening is the first and most important thing when you want someone to be less grieving. Let them tell their stories or thoughts even though they may have told them many times. Even if they didn't want to talk, just being with them was a valuable sharing at that time.
Việc an ủi người đang buồn tưởng chừng như đơn giản nhưng là lại một vấn đề lớn
2. What not to do when someone is grieving
Usually, a person's grief can be at different levels, expressed on the outside also differently, leading to certain annoyance and discomfort to those around. Grieving people often do not want to share because they are afraid that no one will understand or sympathize, they are afraid that their sadness will become the subject of discussion or laughter of others. However, if we know that they are going through something bad that makes them sad, then we should not be indifferent, but do something to help them overcome this negative emotion and avoid doing the following:
Repeat what you've heard: Avoid saying simple or cliché sentences to try to make them feel better. This can make them feel fake and distrust you; Compare their loss with a loss you or someone else has experienced: Every loss is different. Comparison only makes them feel more unappreciated and hurt; Force them: Don't tell them what to do to get better or how not to grieve. That will only make them feel forced, uncomfortable and more frustrated and inhibited; Judge them: Try not to judge how grieving your friend or loved one is. Each state of grief occurs for different reasons and circumstances, and each person's feelings are different. Grief can be associated with extreme emotions and behaviors such as guilt, anger, despair, and fear. A grieving person may lament the loss of loved ones, or cry for hours on end when something goes wrong. Your loved one needs reassurance that what they feel is completely normal. Don't judge them or take their grief reactions in a partial way; Change: Don't tell them to change anything in their lives. Just listen and encourage them to let the pain go away naturally. Give directions: Do not use sentences that begin with phrases such as “You should”, “You will” or “Think about...”; Assumptions: Don't assume you understand how your friend or loved one feels based on appearances. Instead, wait for them to tell you how they feel by sharing and confiding.
Một trong những cách an ủi người đang buồn là hãy để họ cảm nhận được sự đồng cảm
In short, when others experience grief, they will often feel depressed, cry or complain a lot. This can make those around you feel uncomfortable, tired, and uncomfortable. Even though we know we are not the ones who cause them sadness, we can still be the ones to comfort them and help them calm down a bit.
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References: helpguide.org, webmd.com
