Why Couples Should Talk About Sex After Having a Baby

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You find it difficult and anxious to have a relationship after having a baby. At this time, you need time to confide in your partner, share the joys and difficulties in taking care of children and in your sex life so that the other person can understand each other better and have more happiness. again. Here are the shares to make it easier for you to have a husband and wife relationship after giving birth.

1. How long after giving birth can husband and wife have sex?

After giving birth, the mother's body needs a certain period of time to recover. Mothers who give birth naturally, the recovery time will be shorter and gentler, for mothers who have had a caesarean section, the time to recover health and wait for the incision to heal stably will be longer.
According to medical experts, you should have sex about 1 month after giving birth. Do not have sex for at least two weeks after giving birth because the chance of infection at this time is very high. At this time, the mother's body is often still bleeding and there is a high risk of bleeding or uterine infection.
Normally, the mother should abstain from sex for at least 4 to 6 weeks after giving birth, this is the time for the perineal incision to heal completely and only to disappear, the uterus returns to its original size. , the lining of the uterus becomes thicker.
You can start having sex again as soon as you feel ready, not out of reluctance. After giving birth, having sex too soon can cause the incision to tear or the perineal stitches to not fully heal when you try to have sex. In some cases, there may be postpartum complications and the healing process is slower.

Usually, you have little desire for a few weeks or even months after giving birth. During the first six weeks after giving birth, you may experience exhaustion, possibly pain, and fatigue. Your body needs time to recover. In addition, during this time, you are always around and taking care of the baby.
During the first 4 to 6 weeks after giving birth, due to a decrease in the level of estrogen in a woman's body, during this time, the natural ability of the vagina to lubricate is low. If you are breastfeeding, this can continue as long as your baby is breastfed.
There are lots of other reasons why you might not want to have sex after having a baby. Adjusting to motherhood can make you feel stressed, tired, and irritable. You may feel less attractive or less confident in your body changes at this time. You may be afraid of getting pregnant again, especially if you are using a new method of birth control. Or you may be struggling with boredom or postpartum depression.
If you're still not ready to resume your sex life, give yourself a break. You need time to adjust to both your physical, emotional, and baby-care needs. You don't have to rush to have sex until you feel ready. Over time, sex can be just as satisfying as it was before you had children.

2. Worried about pain during sex?

You may be worried that an episiotomy or an episiotomy, you will still feel pain there. In some cases, this pain goes away relatively quickly. Others may experience discomfort that lasts for months after giving birth.

Even after the sutures heal, there are many reasons why sex is painful. Breastfeeding usually sucks all the moisture from your body, so that could also be the cause of your pain during sex. This makes you more prone to scratching and reduces sex drive. To overcome this, lubricants can be used.
Take it slow and try to enjoy each other's bodies without specific expectations of where it will lead. Try to find a time when you don't feel rushed during sex. If you're not sure you're ready for sex, consider manual or oral stimulation around the clitoris. You can ask your partner to avoid the perineum and vagina if the pain is still there.
When you feel ready to have sex, you can try different position experiences where you can control the depth of penetration. If you had a cesarean section, consider having sex so you don't put pressure on your wound. Using a lubricant will reduce any discomfort you may feel from vaginal dryness. Make sure your partner understands what actions make you feel good and what actions make you feel uncomfortable.
If, after the waiting period, you find that sex is still painful or you are too nervous or in pain to even try, you should see a therapist for pelvic rehabilitation. This rehabilitation can alleviate many different uncomfortable symptoms experienced by postpartum mothers, including pain during sex, urine leakage, and others.

3. When will the vagina return to normal?

Your vagina will definitely stretch right after giving birth, but it will start to shrink and regain its firmness within a few days. Whether or not the vagina returns to its original size depends on a number of factors, such as: genetics, the size of the baby, the number of births, and how often you do Kegel exercises.
Most mothers after giving birth, the vagina may never be the same again. Even the vagina may not be as tight as it was before giving birth. There are a number of remedies that can help get the vagina back to normal, but it comes with some side effects. Therefore, before applying, you should consult your doctor.

4. How will breastfeeding affect your sex life?

Breastfeeding can affect your sex life. The hormone prolactin is boosted by breastfeeding, which stimulates milk production, but it can also decrease sex drive.
You may also notice that the vagina becomes drier after having a baby due to lower estrogen levels when you breastfeed. Using a lubricant will ease the discomfort caused by vaginal dryness.
Lubricant is usually found in condoms. So be sure to buy a water-based lubricant, especially if you're using birth control, as oil-based lubricants can make condoms easier to tear.
Breastfeeding , milk flow problems are common even after the baby has finished feeding. Hormones are also released when you have an orgasm and when you breastfeed. During the climax, some women discover that milk is flowing. As time goes on and breastfeeding becomes more frequent, copulation may not be as frequent. If necessary, you should use a bra specifically for postpartum mothers or express milk before sex

5. Appropriate contraceptive methods

Eggs will start to fall again in the postpartum period, whether you are breastfeeding or not. This means that if you are not planning to get pregnant again soon, you need to use birth control. Having unprotected sex during this time can lead to an unwanted pregnancy. Use condoms until you find a safe and suitable method of birth control.
Talk to your doctor about which birth control method will work best for you at this time. You can continue to use the birth control method you used before, or you can decide for yourself which method of birth control is more suitable for you. Your options will depend in part on whether you want to have more children in the next few years and whether you are breastfeeding.

6. After giving birth, how will sex life change?

You may find (or your partner can feel it) that the intensity of sex after the baby is born decreases and you often don't feel emotionally ready. On the other hand, the arrival of a baby can bring joy to your life to the point of enhancing sexual intimacy.
If your partner feels jealous because of your relationship with the baby, try to reassure regularly that your love and need for your partner has not changed. And make sure your partner has plenty of opportunities to care for and bond with your baby, too. Sharing the joys and frustrations of parenthood has many benefits and can even enhance the romantic feelings you have for each other.
After giving birth, sleep deprivation can often occur, in addition to baby care tasks such as changing, nursing, bathing, changing diapers, the pain makes you feel exhausted. And don't forget, your partner probably feels the same way. So it's understandable that sex life drops after you have a baby.

If possible, take some time alone for yourself and your partner while having sex. If you find yourself distracted and always have to pay attention to your baby, you should seek help from family members or hire a babysitter for an hour or two. If not, you will have to work or take a nap while the baby sleeps.
Your baby can wake up at any time. This will make you feel tired and exhausted at times. Things will get easier once your baby starts sleeping through the night, and you'll feel less tired.
In fact, some women after giving birth gradually lose their desire, having sex after giving birth causes them pain. While others become more lustful. You should talk to your partner about these changes and seek support if needed.

7. How to maintain intimacy if not ready to have sex?

There are ways that can help you feel more ready to have sex. Take a few minutes to kiss and cuddle before falling asleep at night. You can ask your partner to massage or rub your feet. Let your partner know that you appreciate affection outside of sex by saying things like, "I love stroking your hair." Obviously the lust is still there if you let your partner know that a kiss on the nape of the neck while you're nursing a baby will send shivers down your spine.
Vinmec International General Hospital is the address for examination, treatment and prevention of many diseases, including the specialty of Obstetrics and Gynecology. Therefore, if after giving birth, the mother encounters difficulties in taking care of her children, difficulty in recovering her health, and having sex after giving birth, she can come to Vinmec to examine and diagnose diseases to ensure the health as well as the most comfortable psychology for the whole family and for the privacy of the couple. With the dedication and enthusiasm of the medical team, modern facilities will definitely make you satisfied.

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Reference source: babycenter.com