This is an automatically translated article.
Being a parent, anyone tends to pay attention to everything related to their child's development, especially physical health. However, the child's emotional state is also an important factor in determining how a child grows up. For sons, the father's role in educating his children is even more decisive.
1. What is mental health? How does mental health work in children?
Mental health is all about awareness and control of one's emotions. Of course, at birth, babies don't have these abilities.
During the first 5 years of life, when the brain begins to develop, children will begin to learn how to perceive and express personal emotions. Therefore, every parent's activities will greatly contribute to the formation of beliefs and the way children deal with daily stress.
As children get older and start talking and asking for what they want, of course, they will also begin to deal with disappointment - one of the first negative emotions in life. This emotion occurs when they are not satisfied with a certain desire, like a toy, a long trip, or a hug from their mother...
If children do not learn to control negative emotions first Early on, they will become rebellious children, screaming for satisfaction. At this time, for boys, the father role is especially important in helping them control and express their emotions in an organized way when dealing with social situations.
According to psychotherapists: Children with good mental health, meaning full awareness and good control of emotions, will be able to cope with situations with self-control and critical thinking from an early age. This helps the brain develop stronger, more flexible reflexes.
Vai trò của người cha trong giáo dục con cái là rất quan trọng
2. Is mental health important to boys?
The answer is yes.
Mental health is extremely important for all children, especially in raising boys.
Boys are often raised to be strong, tough and have to suppress certain emotions, for example sadness or disappointment. Instead, parenting a son often comes with:
Physical exercise, flexibility and reflexes, quick decisions. Leadership. Stoicism. The state of being ready to face a challenge. The above concepts are associated with a boy from infancy to adulthood and are implicitly set for every boy in the family and out in the society. This is evident in the amount of tough, aggressive, or domineering male characters in so many movies. Images of men expressing emotions clearly in popular culture are rare.
It is these rigid concepts that make raising a son less interested in the child's mind and emotions, making the child's mental health not fully developed. In other words, educating a child with toxic masculinity can lead to distortion of the child's thinking, even harming his physical health.
Some manifestations when children are raised in a toxic masculine way include:
Abuse of drugs, drinking alcohol. Reckless, taking risks at work without thinking carefully. Driving over speed. Skip medical care or routine checkups. Negative attitudes about getting psychological help. Easily become violent, bully, bossy... Psychologist Shagoon Maurya explains: Many studies show that parenting boys according to the traditional view of masculinity makes these people more poorer mental health outcomes, a higher risk of depression and a higher risk of suicide.
More dangerously, these kids are also more likely to commit sexual or physical violence to show bravery. According to statistics, up to 90% of murders are committed by men, most of which are people living in toxic masculinity environments.
As can be seen, mental health for boys is also a very important factor determining the healthy development of the baby. In this process, the father's role is more influential than the mother's.
Nuôi dạy con trai thường đi liền với sự mạnh mẽ và nhiều thử thách
3. The father's role in educating his children to control emotions
Contrary to the old concept: the responsibility of raising children lies mainly with the mother. Currently, the roles of both parents play a key role in the formation of a child's personality, perception and emotions in the first years of life, throughout to adulthood.
For son-rearing, the father's role is more influential, because sons often follow and copy their father's behavior. Therefore, to help children's mental health develop in a sustainable and healthy way, family fathers need to pay attention to the following things.
Teach children to express their feelings
Boys are often taught to be strong. For example, when your son climbs onto a high chair despite being reminded by you, then he falls in pain and starts crying. If you teach your child "This hurt is nothing" or more manly statements, this may stop them from crying, but they will begin to learn these things, and then cover up. hide from you when your child is hurt.
This habit is not good at all if children are bullied at school, have some accident... They will hide from you even if they can't solve it on their own, causing serious consequences.
Be a good role model
As mentioned above, boys tend to copy the behavior of their fathers. Therefore, if you personally hide your emotions, avoid psychiatrists or appreciate competition, power, etc., so will the children.
You need to open up and share your feelings with your own children, whether you are happy or sad, and then teach them how to cope.
This not only helps the child become more aware of their emotions, but also helps you to discover your inner world more clearly.
Pay attention to the frequency of violence the child is likely to see
When a boy is regularly exposed to domestic violence, he or she tends to become an aggressor. Similarly, watching movies, or playing video games with violent content, children will also become the characters they see.
Therefore, limit your child's sight or exposure to violence under any circumstances.
It can be said that the father's role in educating his children, especially in raising his son to control his emotions, is enormous. When your child can manage his mental health well, it will be easier for your child to cope with any difficult social situations, increasing the odds of success.
Please dial HOTLINE for more information or register for an appointment HERE. Download MyVinmec app to make appointments faster and to manage your bookings easily.
Reference sources: webmd.com, healthline.com
