This is an automatically translated article.
The article was professionally consulted with Specialist Doctor I Nguyen Thi Man - Obstetrician and Gynecologist - Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology - Vinmec Danang International General Hospital.When trouble arises in the bedroom, many people tend to blame men. However, it is fair to say that women also have a part to play in this problem in sexual relations among women. Here are six mistakes women make when it comes to sex.
1. Mistake 1: Not actively falling in love
Many of us worry about the sentimental behavior of women. According to Les Parrot, a psychology professor at Seattle Pacific University and the author of a new book called Crazy Good Sex, failing to be passive in love is one of the biggest mistakes women make. .Most guys feel like they're the ones taking the initiative all the time and this creates an imbalance of excitement about it. In general, men want women to be more active in it.
"Keeping outdated ideas about gender roles also inhibits sexual relationship satisfaction between men and women," says Dr. Ruth, aka Ruth Westheimer, PhD, psychotherapist , professor at New York University, and lecturer at Yale and Princeton Universities. "Many people used to think that women were less interested in sexual activity and didn't want to argue about it. But I believe there are women who are just as interested in sex as men," he said.
Show your interest by proactively asking him to fall in love, do some new things with him that you have never done before like falling in love in different places or positions. high this and you may find a new level of satisfaction.
Phụ nữ thường không chủ động khi yêu
2. Mistake 2: Worrying about your appearance
Thinking about your appearance during sex can prevent you from enjoying yourself and ruin your chances of having an orgasm.You can think of your fat belly or the makeup on your face. According to Westheimer, you should instead focus on the emotions that love brings and must allow yourself to relax in order to orgasm.
Dr. Helen Fisher, a cultural anthropologist at Rutgers University and also the author of a new book called "Why Him, Why Her," says that half of men don't notice what women are doing. Obsessed with. Few things are better, men don't pay attention to obsessions if women are enthusiastic, energetic, interested in him.
Trắc nghiệm: Phụ nữ nên tránh những sai lầm nào trong phòng ngủ?
Những rắc rối phát sinh trong phòng ngủ sẽ khiến cho đời sống tình dục trở nên suy giảm. Làm bài trắc nghiệm sau đây sẽ giúp phụ nữ tránh được những sai lầm trong phòng ngủ, từ đó nâng cao đời sống tình dục.
Nguồn tham khảo: webmd.com
3. Mistake 3: Having the notion that sex is normal for men
Westheimer believes that we should all abandon these outdated notions, such as that women are not interested in love or that it is only for men.Studies repeatedly show very clearly that the people with the best quality and most frequent sex are couples. That says a lot about the inadequacies of "casual sex".
Phụ nữ cho rằng tình dục là chuyện bình thường đối với nam giới
4. Mistake 4: Believing that he always likes sex
Most teenage boys are ready and will fall in love any time you ask, but this is not the case with adult men. The pressures of everyday life like family, work, bills can reduce his libido.This can come as a big surprise to many women and when his lack of interest in sex causes women to think that he is no longer in love with her.
This is such a shock to women that they don't believe it to be true. Women know they're not always interested in sex, but they still love the man.
But when they find out he doesn't want sex, they think "he doesn't love me anymore". However, the truth is not so. He just wants to stop talking because he needs to focus on handling other issues and reduce pressure in life.
Phụ nữ tin rằng đàn ông luôn luôn thích sex
5. Mistake 5: Not talking openly about sex
Share openly about what you and him both like, dislike, and feel uncomfortable with, even with a partner you've been with for a long time. But this is the only way to achieve satisfaction in sex.Everyone needs to take responsibility for sex and no man can make a woman orgasm if she doesn't take responsibility for her own sexual experience. Even the best partner can't know what you need if you don't let him know.
Meanwhile, most men are very eager to please women. If you can tell him what you want and don't hurt his self-esteem, he'll appreciate and listen to what you have to say.
6. Mistake 6: Get upset when he suggests something new
After being together for a while, some couples often want to spice things up by experimenting with new things to enrich their sex lives. Just because a man wants to try something new doesn't mean he's unhappy with you or his current sex life.However, it's important that you adjust within your comfort zone, says Parrott.
According to Parrott “No one is obligated to do something they don't want to. If he asks you about trying something out of your moral range, be honest with him about your limits and explain why."
Of course, please share this as lovingly as possible. If it's not ethical for you to do it, but you still don't want to, explain why. If it's just a request that takes you by surprise, and you feel uncomfortable about it at first, try not to overreact. Instead, let him know you need some time to think about this.
Please dial HOTLINE for more information or register for an appointment HERE. Download MyVinmec app to make appointments faster and to manage your bookings easily.
