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Many children do not want to go to school due to psychological reasons such as anxiety and depression, this is a phenomenon that psychologists call school refusal. After a long absence from school due to the Covid-19 epidemic, the situation of children not wanting to go to school may increase. So what do parents need to prepare to deal with this situation?
1. What are the children's expressions of not wanting to go to school?
Every year, thousands of students do not want to go to school because of anxiety and depression, this is a phenomenon that psychologists call school refusal. According to statistics, about 1-2% of children do not want to go to school, very distressed at the prospect of having to go to school every day. When children don't want to go to school, parents can feel like every morning is like a battle, having to work very hard to find a way to get the child to school. Children who do not want to go to school may show signs such as:
Crying, throwing tantrums, screaming when asked to go to school. Locking herself in her room, refusing to leave the house, begging her parents to stay at home, Finding excuses to avoid going to school such as lying about being sick, in pain and needing to stay home to rest, ...
2. Why does the child not want to go to school?
The reasons may vary by age and circumstances. 3-year-old children do not want to go to school often due to the psychology of not wanting to leave their parents, fear of the new environment. In addition, after a period of absence from school due to illness, or a holiday, some children do not want to go back to school. However, it is not possible to identify a single factor or individual that influences why children do not want to go to school. This is often caused by a complex interplay of risk factors involved such as:
There are conflicting events happening at home or at school with friends, teachers causing stress, anxiety. , scared. Children are transferred schools, changed to a new learning environment. Children are bullied, teased by friends, Poor academic results make children afraid to go to class. A worrying issue is that the long absence from school due to the Covid-19 pandemic will make more children unwilling to go to school. One study found a 300% increase in the rate of children refusing to go to school in an area of Australia with long school closures due to the Covid-19 outbreak. A similar study in the United States showed a significant increase in the number of school-age children and young adults who refused to go to school after experiencing anxiety or depression during the pandemic.
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3. What should parents do when the child does not want to go to school?
The first step to solving the problem of children not wanting to go to school is to try to understand the problem from their point of view. Parents need to determine why their child is having trouble going to school. Parents need to talk to their children about school and why they don't want to go to school. Try to find out if your child is having problems with peers or teachers, or if he is trying to avoid something. An open-ended question parents can use to find out their child's opinion is, "If you could change one thing about school, what would it be?"
If the child finds it difficult to talk about this, ask the child to evaluate each part of the school day, such as bus rides, classes, teachers, peers, breaks and breaks lunch. Younger children can more easily tell you how they feel by pointing to symbols like sad or smiley faces.
In addition, parents should think, if there is a problem in the family that affects the child's psyche, making the child not want to go to school, like the family has just moved to a new place, when going to school, the child is worried about someone at home, or the family pet is sick,...
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4. Find solutions for children not wanting to go to school
After identifying the problem that makes the child not want to go to school, parents should find the most suitable solution for the child. Collaborate with teachers and schools to make going to school more comfortable. If the child is too worried, scared, parents should consider taking the child to see a psychologist.
Encourage children to go to school by regularly praising and showing their trust. Prepare uniforms, lunches, and school bags with the children the night before. Reward your child for regular attendance and academic progress.
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