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Most children begin to show signs of non-compliance around 24 months of age as they begin to explore independence and develop self-image. At this age, a child's nonconformity is how he communicates.In other words, the child realizes that the wishes of the father and mother do not always match the child's and that the child may have his or her own likes, dislikes, and utensils. Common behaviors during this stage are frequent use of the word "no", sharing difficulties, demands, picky eaters, and throwing tantrums when they can't find them.
Children continue to exhibit non-conforming behavior as they discover their own preferences, separate from their parents. Instead of restricting your child to these times, which can make behavior worse, be more flexible and manageable in terms of your child's development. In this article, we will provide useful information for parents to learn how to effectively teach their children to listen.
In toddlers, their frontal cortex is still developing, so skills like impulse control and logical reasoning have not yet been developed. This is also the main cause of frustration and frustration for parents when children refuse to obey.
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At this time, children can listen to parents say, partially understand those things but cannot do it in one way. consistent because the child has not yet been able to control his or her behavior. Most experts now agree that ineffective timeouts can even backfire in healthy development, especially for toddlers. Toddlers should not be punished for behavior that is out of their control due to the maturation of their brains.
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Hầu hết trẻ em bắt đầu có biểu hiện không tuân thủ vào khoảng 24 tháng tuổi
1. Teach children the right way according to the developmental stages in life
As every parent realizes sooner or later, shouting or even yelling at a child rarely has the desired effect. Instead, sit down and pick your baby up, so you can look your child straight in the eye and get their attention.Eye contact is one of the most important and effective skills when a parent is facing their child. Children will listen more attentively if their parents sit down next to them at the breakfast table when reminding them not to eat cereal or candy in bed at night when getting ready for bed.
2. Clarity in all matters
Family statements or rules that parents want children to follow should be made clear, simple, and understandable. This will make children understand the problem quickly through the words that their parents use.It's hard for kids to figure out the crux of a long message like "It's cold outside and you've been sick lately, so I want you to put on a sweater before we go to the store.
"Instead, moms can say succinctly, 'Put on a sweater and we'll go to the store.' And don't say something like a question if the child really doesn't have a choice. "It's time we got in the car" has more impact than "Get in your car seat, okay honey?" It's a good thing to offer options to a toddler, but make sure the child's parents feel good with all the choices they're presented with. By allowing children to make limited choices, children feel empowered to make decisions, and the outcome may surprise their parents.
Giao tiếp bằng mắt là kỹ năng quan trọng có hiệu quả khi cha mẹ đối mặt với con mình
3. Be serious with your every word
Make it clear to your child that his or her rules need to be taken seriously. However, do not threaten or use promises with children when you are not sure that you can keep them. If a mother says to her 2-year-old, "You need a glass of juice after dinner", don't say anything 5 minutes later and give the child the exact same juice mentioned. arrive.Also make sure that both parents understand the school rules and respect them as well, so that neither of them can break the rules. And if there's a disagreement, talk to both of you so it's clear what needs to be said or done when the issue comes up again – something that is bound to happen.
4. Reinforce established messages or rules
It's often helpful to monitor a parent's speech with some other type of message, especially if they're trying to pull their child away from a game or story that's getting their attention.For example, say: "Time for bed!" and then give a visual cue (light switches on and off), a physical cue (put your hand on the child's shoulder to gently pull their attention away from the toy and toward the parent them), can even immediately carry the child to bed, pat the pillow to signal the child to go to sleep, and do not forget to turn off the light switch when leaving the room.
It is important for children to know when something is particularly dangerous and that their parents guide them on how to approach it safely. For example, when your child crosses the street, remember to always hold his or her hand. That way, children will learn that crossing the street when there are many cars passing is dangerous and they need to be more careful.
Hãy nói rõ với trẻ rằng các quy định mà mình đưa ra cần được thực hiện một cách nghiêm túc
5. Give warning levels
Notify your child before any major changes are made, especially if he's happily joining in with some toys or a friend. Before you're ready to leave the house, say, "We'll be at the park in a few minutes. But you need to promise when I call to get up immediately and get ready to go home."6. Guide the kids and make the chores fun
Give practical tasks, such as “Put these red blocks together”. The young parent can then do it: “Good, now let's put the blue blocks away.” Yelling or yelling at a child can work, but no one wants this to happen. chief.Most children react best when their parents treat them with gentleness and a hint of humor. The humor, affection and trust that parents show to their children when talking will make children want to listen to their parents more because they will know that you love them and feel special.
7. Modeling good behavior
Children will learn to listen better if they see that their parents are good listeners, too. Make it a habit to listen to your child by listening to and respecting anyone else's opinion. Look your child in the eye when talking to him, respond politely, and let him finish without interrupting whenever possible.While it may seem like a tall order when you're cooking dinner while chatting with your baby, try not to walk away or turn your back while he's talking. Like many other manners, the ancients considered the saying "Do as I say, not as I do" as worthless when teaching your children to obey.
8. Encourage children at the right time
Children are more likely to listen to their parents if their parents can notice when their children behave well and encourage and praise them for it. "I put my dolls away as soon as I asked. You did a good job!" or "You've been so gentle with the puppies.I'm so proud of you!" Be sure to provide your child with positive things and be specific about what you're praising him for, and he'll become a little more obedient, at least according to the rules their parents set.
At a certain age in a child's development, parents may feel driven mad by a child's stubbornness. Many parents even have to say it dozens of times before a child gets up and does anything like get dressed, turn off the TV, brush his teeth, and feels like the child is ignoring them on purpose.
However, there are still ways that can help parents teach their children to be more obedient, such as using gentle words to talk to their baby, giving them timely encouragement or showing them that they care too. care, listen and respect children's opinions.
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Article referenced source: Babycenter.com
