How to teach children respect?

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Getting a 3-year-old to behave respectfully is not easy. The reality is that a 3-year-old's language skills are still developing, so many times you talk to him and he just can't respond to your words.
When a child's anger or frustration reaches its peak, the child will respond with actions such as ignoring you, sticking out his tongue, even shouting. Nor does this prove that children cannot learn respectful behaviors. If you are a parent of a child, what can you do?

1. Show respectful behavior

“You can’t get respect from kids by asking for it,” says Jerry Wyckoff, a psychologist and co-author of Twenty Teachable Virtues. show respect to my parents with fears”, “I really respect my dad because I know he will hit me if...”.
It's not respect - it's fear. Instead, start by listening to your child. Because of the limited vocabulary and pronunciation, it can be difficult to be patient while waiting for a 3-year-old to articulate his or her needs in an ambiguous way, but it's an important time to have a conversation. and understand children. Let your child know you care about what he has to say by sitting at his level, kneeling or lying down, and looking him in the eye. This is one of the most effective ways to teach your child to listen carefully to you.

2. Teach your child polite answers

Through good manners, children can show care and respect for their parents and those around them. As soon as children can communicate verbally, they will learn to say "sorry" and "thank you". Explain to your child so he understands that when you are polite to me, I will help you. It is more effective for children to learn to respect others through explicit behavior from parents and others, rather than just listening to what you teach.
Say “sorry” and “thank you” often to your 2-year-old (and others), and your child will realize that in everyday communication, both in the family and in public indispensable phrases like 'sorry', or 'thank you'.

3. Avoid overreacting

If your child hits you or tells you, "You're stupid," try to keep your emotions in check (because, after all, you know you're not stupid). A child wants to provoke you and he or she will endure almost any irritation or anger to get your attention. You need to stay calm, instead, face it and say softly but firmly, "We won't hit or talk like that in this family." Then show your child how to get what he or she wants, showing respect: “When you want me to play with you, just say to me, 'Mom, will you play this game with me? Or can you show me how to do this?”
Life would be much easier if the children were always happy to comply with our requests, but that is not in the nature of children. You need to keep in mind that when your child doesn't respond to requests or doesn't get your way, it's not because he or she is disrespecting you or others, it's simply because he or she has a different opinion. . In order for children to learn in the best way, parents need to explain and model behaviors with respectful manners.

4. Praise your child's respectful behavior

Parents need to reinforce children's polite and respectful behavior as often as possible, but be specific. Praise should be based on a specific behavior, for example, “Today, you were very polite when you asked me to let you play for 5 more minutes, you can negotiate and no longer yell like before. more", when someone gives a gift, I already know how to say thank you... Parents need to give them timely and clear praise, this helps motivate children to try to do good things. every day and I know that when I do the right things, I will always be appreciated.
It is inevitable that there will be times when children appear insolent, insolent in front of others. In such cases, adults need to stay calm and explain to children about respect for others. Gentle but firm, you cannot ignore these actions in children because over time it will become a big problem for parents.
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Reference source: babycenter.com