How to help your child overcome difficulties without your help

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Your child is going through a difficult period socially, academically or behaviorally without help. You don't quite know what's causing your child's troubles, but you want to do whatever you can to help your child.
Fortunately, there are a few practical things you can do, starting now, to start improving things for your child in ways that build resilience and teach them how to overcome difficulties on their own. towel. Understanding this allows you to move from worry mode to action mode immediately. In this article, we will provide useful information for parents to effectively help their children overcome difficulties without your help.

1. Children are independent early

Parents all want children to be able to be independent soon, as well as children to be able to change all their problems without help, it sounds easy to do but to do well encountered many difficulties.
>>> Teach children to be independent from a young age
However, if children can learn important skills to overcome their own problems, parents will greatly reduce the burden. Instead of rushing to intervene in children's situations, parents should turn those difficulties into opportunities for children to learn and grow. Start by following these steps:
Observation: When a child has a problem, parents should take a deep breath and take a step back. Ask yourself if your child needs help? For everyday situations such as children falling lightly, children dropping their things, etc., children should stand up or pick up their own things, which are things within their ability to do. If the child falls and the knee bleeds a lot, at this time the child may need the help of parents and comfort, reduce the feeling of pain and panic, the parents should help. Or sometimes, because children are angry, they throw all their toys to another place, parents must absolutely not pick them up, but let them calm down for a few minutes, after the child's anger has passed, love Ask the child to pick up each item he has thrown and return it to its place. Ask questions: Sometimes just giving a child space can make their problems work themselves out. Parents can help if children make pleas or need guidance. Asking questions is a great way to help children take control of their problems. For example, when a child is upset about the loss of a toy, instead of buying a new item or trying to find it, help your child think about where it might be, asking questions such as: Last time I saw it.” Encourage growth mindset: Mistakes become lessons for children, in those moments, parents help children realize that there are always lessons to be learned both when children succeed or fail. Instead of avoiding difficulties, embrace the opportunities they can bring. Talk about your own challenges and what you yourself have learned - or are learning - in facing them. Create a learning environment together to help both parent and child develop resilience and perseverance skills. >>> Language and cognitive development of 16-month-old babies: Refining skills

2. How to help your child overcome difficulties without your help

Here are 7 ways to help children overcome difficulties on their own without the help of others:
Don't be too critical of children: Parents need to know that they are not alone responsible for a child's academic success. When your child gets a bad grade in class, be objective and tell yourself, “My son came home with a bad test score. That is too bad. What are the reasons why children get bad grades? What can I help him do so that he can be successful and responsible for his work? Don't Praise Your Child's Intelligence: Don't praise your child for his or her intelligence by saying something like, "You're the smartest kid I know!" Instead, praise children for their hard work and persistence on a difficult task.Children who are praised for their efforts are more likely to keep trying when they encounter setbacks. Children who tend to think of themselves as smart will have a harder time going to school and give up more easily when they have difficulty learning. Just like in life, don't get angry: Instead of reacting to your child's poor grades with anger, respond with tenderness and understanding. Being overly frustrated with a child's grades, they can actually reduce a child's motivation to learn.It is important to encourage the child: “I hope you know that I love you despite your grades. How big are you?” Try to place responsibility for school work on your child where it belongs. Try saying, “I'm sure you're also very disappointed with your grades. I know if you can help me fix this.” Limit unnecessary conflicts: When parents often engage in arguments with their children, children's learning will naturally be affected. Children cannot learn when they are upset. Therefore, parents need to avoid unnecessary arguments that can make children feel uncomfortable. Parents can encourage children: “I will always love you. I want you to make good choices in life, even about school. I have faith that you can turn things around on your own. I will always be here if you need some pointers.” Maintain a Positive Parent-Child Relationship: The best thing a parent can do for their children is to maintain a harmonious and loving relationship with them. Children who feel unconditionally loved are more likely to do well in school. Don't let your child feel pressured to rely on grades. Instead of wasting energy on managing your child's school work, try to spend time caring, understanding the child's emotional state. That's the best use of time. Regularly discuss learning situation with the child's teacher: Parent meetings are a great opportunity for parents and teachers to discuss the learning progress of children. However, this should be based on the respect of both parties. You should start the conversation with some questions like: “I noticed that my child's grades are showing signs of decline, did you notice that? Is there anything I can do at home to help my baby? What is your opinion about the child's learning results? Take tests often: Children will sometimes fall behind their peers because of differences in learning. Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses and children are no exception. Therefore, experts have designed standardized tests that can help identify learning deficits.

It is really difficult to motivate children to be self-disciplined in all matters from learning, playing, living... That is one of the most difficult challenges that parents always face. Children's inability to solve some problems on their own can make parents feel that it's a direct reflection of their parenting abilities.
They often blame themselves and then show inappropriate attitudes towards the child in anger. That inadvertently makes children feel pressured to disappoint their parents. Therefore, to help children overcome difficulties without assistance, parents need to calm, gently and encourage children instead of using heavy words to blame them.

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Article reference source: babycenter.com, parentingsimply.com