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Children today seem to have a busier schedule than ever before, encountering many obstacles when we shuffle from one activity to another. Some children can adapt, but some find it very difficult to fit in. What if your child does not adjust to the new learning environment? What if your child spends time alone at recess and after school? In this article we will provide useful information to help you know how to help your child make friends at school age.
1. Help children make friends at school age
Friends act as great influencers in our lives.
An article by Graeme Paton in The Telegraph quotes Judith Rich Harris - an American psychologist, referring to this issue. According to her, “Although the relationship with parents has a great influence on the happiness of children, just as the marital relationship greatly affects the happiness of adults, it does not affect too much on the personality of the children. young. In the long run, it's what happens to a child outside of the home they live in that affects their personality later in life."
So your child needs to start the journey of making friends at a very young age. But to maintain and develop a friendship, it takes a lot of effort. Playing with friends is an important way for school-age children to learn social rules like cooperation, not hurting each other's feelings, and waiting their turn. One note is to help your child take one step at a time and gently encourage positive social interactions without too much pressure. The main goal is to give your child the opportunity to have the most rewarding social experiences naturally without feeling any pressure. Your child may be by nature a shy, less sociable, afraid of crowds, but that's not necessarily a big deal. Instead of trying to change your child's personality, empathize with your child and remember that friendships have their ups and downs and that making friends with your child takes time, you can help your child last longer. Playgrounds for children to have fun in relationships with peers. Meetings and gatherings give a shy child a new beginning for social relationships.
Chơi với bạn bè là một cách quan trọng để con học được các quy tắc xã hội
2. How to help your child make friends at school
Friendship doesn't come naturally to every child. As a parent, you can't impose friends on your children, but you can do a few small actions to help your child gain more friends. Here are a few suggestions:
2.1. Inculcate social skills early: Teach your child to say hello when he meets someone. Let's train your baby from the first years to know how to say hello, look directly into the eyes of the opposite person with a smile. Model yourself for your child to follow. An easy way to teach your child social skills is to bring them along to social gatherings. Joining social groups will give your child the opportunity to get used to meeting new people and start talking to them.
2.2. Let your child understand the concept of friendship and be an example for them to follow: Let your child observe how you interact with your friends. Also, read stories about friendship to your child, watch movies about friendship. Ask your child questions about his or her friends. Invite your friends over to your house and show them how you communicate with them, and don't forget to say nice things about your friends in front of them even when they're not around. In the long run, your child will learn those habits from you.
2.3. Let children be integrated: Do not let children play alone. When bringing children to play areas or new environments, encourage children to participate in fun games with children of their age. Playing a game they enjoy makes it easier for kids to make friends. But remember to keep an eye on them because you can't know that a conflict will happen or not, children have not yet been able to shape how to yield to each other, so at any time, there may be a situation of fighting for things. play or argue or even fight.
Khuyến khích con trẻ tham gia trò vui với các bạn đồng trang lứa
2.4. Always listen: Whenever your child comes home from school, always ask him how was his day at school? When your child talks about "problems" that happen between them and their friends, listen to them and solve them in a positive way.
2.5. Coach your child: Help your child understand that making friends at school is a skill that needs to be learned just like playing a sport or drawing a picture. It can take a long time and children need practice to be good at something. Guide your child by suggesting ways to communicate to make new friends.
2.6. Paving the way for sharing, helping your child to become a good friend: Whenever, give your child an opportunity to give and share. When you prepare tools for your child to go to school, prepare some extra supplies, firstly, so that your child can have a map to use when lost, or you can share it with your child's friend to use when he or she doesn't bring anything. . Teach your child how to remember the birthdays of a few friends and send greeting cards when the occasion comes. Or instruct your child to congratulate you when you achieve something.
2.7. Don't expect too much from your child: A shy child takes more time to make friends and adjust to a new environment than other children. If your child feels forced to make friends, the best intentions can backfire, possibly creating anxiety disorders, depression, or autism in your child. Children will feel insecure around other children and parental pressure is the cause of that insecurity. Give your child time and encourage her to make friends little by little.
Cha mẹ nên tạo môi trường và khích lệ các con kết bạn với những đứa trẻ khác
Friendship is a special and important part of life. Helping your child make friends at school can set them up for a lot of fun in the coming school years.
If parents notice signs that the child is having difficulty integrating with friends or showing signs of depression, autism, etc., parents can take the child to the Psychology Clinic of Vinmec International General Hospital. The clinic has the function of examining, consulting and outpatient treatment of psychological and mental health problems.
With modern equipment and a team of doctors who are lecturers in psychiatry at Hanoi Medical University, the Psychology clinic is capable of deploying psychological tests and intensive psychotherapy to serve patients. medical work.
If you have a need for medical examination at Vimec Health System nationwide, please make an appointment on the website to be served.
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