Depression before and after marriage: What you need to know

This is an automatically translated article.

Depression before and after marriage is increasingly common due to psychological pressures from sudden life changes, busy wedding preparations or psychological readiness.

1. What is depression?

Depression is a psychological disorder that causes the patient to feel sad, restless, worried, tired, feel no longer energetic and no longer interested in everything around. Depression can affect the way a person thinks and acts, leading to serious mental and health problems in the long run.

2. Depression before marriage

2.1. What is pre-marital depression? Many couples who are about to get married suffer from pre-marital depression. When receiving the marriage proposal, they were extremely happy, happily preparing for the wedding together, but then one of them felt depressed, tired, did not want this wedding to take place, lost inspiration with the other, always showing irritation, frustration with his future husband or wife. The closer to the wedding day, the more uncomfortable, frustrated and restless mood becomes. That sudden emotional change is known as premarital depression.
2.2. Causes of depression before marriage Stress from wedding preparation To prepare for a decent wedding, there are many tasks that the bride and groom must perform such as: shopping for furniture, wedding photography, choosing the page wedding dress, order ceremony, ask someone to hold the casket, order wedding cards, wedding invitations... and countless other unnamed things. Running around everywhere, worrying, arranging work has inadvertently become pressure, making the future bride and groom feel tired, heavy stress, leading to depression.
Wedding decision is too sudden, not mentally prepared Many marriages take place not from the voluntary intention of both people, but may be arranged by parents, urging from both parties family or age pressure is no longer small... Two people have not really understood each other, are not ready to change their lives, become one family. That creates psychological pressure, even a mental crisis that makes you feel crazy.
Worried about life with mother-in-law After getting married, many couples will live with their husband's family, especially obsessing about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Living together for a long time is certainly inevitable such as scuffles and quarrels. Always worried about what your husband's parents will be like? Will I be able to get along?... is also the cause of depression before marriage.
Worrying about housework If you were pampered by your family since childhood and didn't have to do anything, then when you get married, the pressure comes from having to do everything from: cook rice, wash dishes, sweep the house, do laundry. washing, dumping ... also makes many people worry. That leads to the thought of being afraid of getting married, just wanting to be at home with parents to be cared for and protected.
Worried about family happiness Today, the mass media, social networks often report on adultery, domestic violence or separation, divorce... making many people feel feel scared, don't want to get married for fear of falling into the same situation.
Worried career will be affected

Employment is always a pressure for young people. Finding a good job is not easy. Marriage can affect work due to limited time and reduced competitiveness. After getting married, pregnant women still have to take maternity leave for a long time, even have to take time off from work.
Loss of attractive beauty People want to enjoy the feeling of being pursued. But when you get married, that won't be the case. Single women are always the most beautiful.
Uncertain about your feelings and your partner Confused about your own feelings. Does that person really love me? Do I really love that person? After being in love for a while, still not sure if two people are compatible, have empathy, are in tune to get married? The approaching wedding day makes you feel restless, anxious, worried, and for a long time creating pre-marital depression.
2.3. How to avoid depression before marriage? Pre-marital depression is caused by pre-marital psychosis. It is important to know how to control your emotions. Prepare well mentally with the following tips:
Get married when you are really ready, don't force yourself to get married soon for any other reason. Marrying the person you love and the person you love Spend time talking to each other about married life so that you can understand each other better Prepare psychologically to adapt to a new family life Get to know your future husband's family, especially especially the parents-in-law so as not to be surprised when they come back to live together. Arrange the wedding preparation properly, don't take on too many things, you can ask friends and relatives around. Take pre-marital classes.

3. Post-marital depression

3.1. Causes of depression after marriage There are many causes of depression after marriage, such as:
Not being ready for married life both physically and mentally, causing many people to be shocked, no get used to the new life. The two do not love each other. Marriage is not by your own will, but by arrangement, many external factors make the marriage unhappy. Married due to forced circumstances such as: pregnancy... Two people are not yet financially independent. main, dependent living on parents, families on both sides Making the wedding ceremony is too grand, beyond the ability of themselves and their family, making married life become secret, having to worry too much about money and things Quarrels and conflicts in the family make family life tiring, becoming hell Conflicts with parents and families on both sides, especially the relationship between mother-in-law - daughter-in-law Hope too much about life. Live a romantic newlywed life, about a happy family like in the movie, but after getting married, there are many things that are not satisfactory, making you feel disappointed and inhibited. After getting married, one of the two people showed bad traits such as drinking, gambling, jealousy, indiscriminate activities.. A third person appeared in the marriage... 3.2. Symptoms of Post-Marital Depression Symptoms of post-marital depression are similar to those of regular depression: sadness, fatigue, boredom, loss of interest in things, loss of appetite, poor sleep sleep, insomnia, frigidity, unwillingness to have sex. More severe conditions also show signs of self-isolation, suicidal thoughts.
Psychological pressures, conflicts and conflicts in married life, if not resolved soon, will create great conflicts, leading to fatigue, depression, stressful family life like hell, eventually causing inhibition, separation, divorce or domestic violence. Having to endure so much pain, suffering, scandal about an unhappy marriage or always hiding, pretending to be okay, not revealing your true feelings is the source of depression. after marriage.
If you have psychological problems before and after marriage, you should go to a psychological examination at reputable centers and clinics for timely conversation, advice and treatment.
Psychology Clinic - Vinmec International General Hospital officially came into operation in April 2019, has the function of examining, consulting and outpatient treatment of psychological problems and psychological health. With modern equipment, Vinmec Mental Health Clinic is currently cooperating with experienced professors and experts:
MSc. Doctor Nguyen Van Phi - Psychologist, Vinmec Times City International Hospital: with 7 years of experience working as a lecturer in Psychiatry - Hanoi Medical University, Doctor Psychiatrist at Hanoi Medical University Hospital & Central Geriatric Hospital, and a member of the Vietnam Psychiatric Association. MSc. Dr. Pham Thanh Luan - Psychologist, Vinmec Times City International Hospital: with 5 years of experience in research, examination and treatment of Psychiatric diseases, trained at prestigious universities trust, practice in-depth expertise in the French Republic. MSc. Doctor Nguyen Trong Hien - Psychologist, Vinmec Times City International Hospital: with 6 years as a lecturer in the Department of Psychiatry - Hanoi Medical University and Central Geriatric Hospital, together with Dr. Experience in research, examination and treatment of diseases in Psychiatry such as: emotional disorders, stress-related disorders and body dysmorphic disorders, developmental disorders in children, adolescents & childbirth .... Along with the implementation of psychological tests, intensive psychotherapy for diagnosis and treatment, in order to bring the best medical examination and treatment effect.
Customers can go directly to Vinmec Times City to visit or contact hotline 0243 9743 556 for support.