Children often use profanity and rudeness: What to do?

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1. Why do children swear?

The act of using words that are defamatory, offensive, rude or abusive towards others is called profanity. However, the profanity nature of adults is different from that of children. Children use vulgarity and rudeness by imitating adults, observing adults using words that express emotions or defame others. Children see and learn.
Profanity is the use of defamatory, offensive, rude or abusive words towards others. However, the nature of profanity in children is different from that of adults. Children use profanity because they learn from adults, when they see adults using "poisonous" words to express their feelings or defame others, they see and learn from them. So, first of all, children use profanity to test new words, how to use new words, and they are very interested in trying to see how that word is used, different from adults who swear when angry. evil, or out of habit.

In fact, children do not need to know the meaning or be unaware of its consequences when using words with bad connotations. They simply come from a habit, a saying of people around the child, friends, neighbors and even parents themselves. However, the worry here is that profanity will also become a habit when children use them skillfully and often. It is very difficult to give up this behavior if it becomes a habit.
The best way to deal with a child's profanity is to ignore it until the child loses interest. If your child continues to swear, admit that you shouldn't be profanity yourself and distract your child with a song or story.

2. What to do when children say vulgar, rude?

Here are some steps you can take when your child uses profanity, such as:
Keep a stern face: The first time your child says a swear word, suppress the urge to laugh. your voice, which the child will of course see as great encouragement to do it again. Making adults laugh - either angry or annoyed - is a huge power that can be possessed with young children. And even though it's fun to hear your child combine two different words, it's not really helpful for your child to show interest. So, when your child uses profanity and rude talk for the first time, remember not to make fun of him or laugh at him.

Set rules: If your child is 2 years old and likes a swear word or two, you need to set some rules with your child. It's important to do this calmly - without becoming agitated or mad - or your child will use this behavior to get your attention. If it's a word he made up himself, tell him it doesn't exist and you don't understand what he's saying because what he says doesn't make sense. For adult profanities, you don't have to explain what they mean or why they're not acceptable. Just state clearly, in a down-to-earth and unconcerned tone, which words are off-limits. Words that children cannot use. Use alternative words: If your child is just trying out a new word and doesn't understand what it means, you can convince your child to replace the profanity with other words. If your child wants to imitate the words adults already use, and he doesn't want to use substitute words to express anger or frustration, you can encourage him to speak out loud. But if your child doesn't swear even after a reminder or two from you, it's time to apply discipline. Be calm, respond quickly and consistently.
Don't let your child swear to get what he wants: If he curses because he wants something, make sure he's not getting whatever he's asking for. Teach children about respect. You are not supporting your child by letting him think that it is unacceptable to throw other children's toys. Explain that profanity hurts everyone's feelings, that it makes no difference if other kids are using the same language to hurt people's feelings. Children may still be trying to learn to be empathetic and may not always remember to think of others first, but they still need to know when they've been hurt, even if it's not intentional.

Pay attention to what you say: Sure, there are different rules for adult and child behavior, but if your child hears profanity in everyday conversation, it's a lot harder to convince children that certain words are not allowed. Children will also wonder why a rule applies to them and not to others. Treat your child like a sponge: She absorbs what she sees and hears around her and is eager to share what she learns with others, for better or worse. You need to correct the child from the very first statement that uses obscene words. Do not let this behavior become a habit in your child because once it becomes a habit, it is very difficult to break or correct it. If your child uses profanity to express his anger or frustration, listen to what he has to say and find out why. Let your child feel that he or she can share anything with you without having to swear or get angry.

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Reference source: babycenter.com