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Raising children is a big responsibility in married life. How to raise good children, become useful people is what future fathers and mothers care about. Experts have designed a number of questions to help you figure out if you're ready to raise children.
1. Expectations
How often do you spend time playing with children? Which of them do you like? The answer will not have to do with your future love for your children, but it may reveal some of your assumptions and attitudes about life when new members are added.
Do you feel children of a certain age will be cuter, more agreeable? If you know that you are still afraid to care for and raise children in a particular age group - for example, infants or puberty, you can be better prepared mentally and physically to deal with them. this problem.
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How do you feel about the responsibility of parents? You need to live responsibly with yourself, know how to take care of yourself before thinking about how to raise good children. If you're still having trouble managing your time, managing your family's budget, managing your emotions, etc., you may not be ready to become a parent.
What do you hope for as a parent? What if this is not met? Taking care of and raising children is a long journey full of ups and downs, sometimes it is fun and happy, but also many times extremely tired and depressed.
What is your fear? What if you actually encountered that? Make sure that the arrival of the child is entirely your own will and is appropriate for the current circumstances. Should not give birth in a situation of force majeure or due to the influence of the family.
What kind of parent do you want to be? How are you similar and different from your current parents? Think about the useful things you learned from your parents, as well as the shortcomings of their parenting.
When you were a child, what were you taught to be a parent?
Nuôi dạy con là một quãng đường đầy khó khăn
2. Family situation
When you were a child, what fun did you enjoy? What do you not like? What do you appreciate most about the education you received? Which point is not good? Think about what you want to continue to do from an early age, as well as what you think needs to change.
3. Self worth
What did you learn from your parents? What do you not want to pass on to your future children? What moral values do you want your children to instill? We all have high expectations as parents, but often don't say it. This question can help clarify your hopes and dreams for your children, as well as yourself.
What do you think about discipline? Compare your thoughts with your partner's answers. This is an area where couples often argue with each other, as one tends to be indulgent and the other likes to be strict. Discussing these issues in advance can make it easier to resolve future conflicts.
Nuôi dạy bé nghiêm khắc là cách mà nhiều bà mẹ lựa chọn
4. Changes in future life
Should talk to people who already have children as well as to those who decide not (or cannot) have children. How do you feel about what you hear? Listening to friends and loved ones talk about their own choices can help you uncover new problems, review and organize your thoughts.
Can a spouse, family member or friend help you with child rearing? You don't need too much, but there should still be a few people you can rely on in the process of giving birth and taking care of and teaching them.
What do you usually do in your free time? The hours of activity of young children are different from those of adults, leaving parents often in severe sleep deprivation, especially when the child is newborn or sick. Therefore, should be mentally ready, giving up personal pleasures, relaxing moments if thinking about becoming a parent.
How do you imagine your life will change with a baby? Besides joy, taking care of a child always comes with trouble, fatigue, boredom... You will have to clean up the smelly diapers, control anger when the child is spoiled, soothe the baby when he is bad. fussy ... Ready to raise children means that you completely accept life turned upside down.
Khi có con bạn sẽ đối mặt với việc nghe tiếng con khóc hàng ngày
Try to answer all of the above questions by writing down your thoughts. Through it, you can:
Discover new things about yourself; Realistic assessment of your current life; Consider practical requirements for parenting; Eliminate worries, negative and unhelpful thoughts; Identify the skills you need additionally for successful parenting; Help you make positive changes to prepare for parenting. If you don't feel ready to be a parent, you need to use safe contraception to avoid unwanted pregnancy. The couple should ensure physical health, good mental preparation, knowledge, financial stability, ... so that raising children becomes a joy in married life, instead of burdens and pressures. .
In addition to psychological preparation, knowledge of child care and parenting, you also need to prepare well in terms of health. To prepare for a healthy pregnancy, both husband and wife should have a reproductive health checkup 3-5 months before becoming pregnant.
The wife should:
Get vaccinated before pregnancy (especially against rubella because rubella in pregnancy is extremely dangerous ) Genetic testing to screen for genetic diseases before pregnancy Check for secondary infections In particular, women over 35 years old who want to become pregnant (especially if they have never been pregnant) will have to have a very detailed health check because pregnancy at this age often problems: Ovarian failure, premature birth, higher risk of birth defects, placenta previa, preeclampsia. Husbands should:
Check reproductive health, detect diseases of testicular atrophy, physiological weakness, weak sperm... Sexually transmitted diseases, especially those that cannot be cured, are extremely dangerous. Vinmec currently has many comprehensive health care programs for couples, pregnant mothers and their unborn babies, including basic pre-marital examination packages, advanced pre-marital examination packages, and maternity packages. . Vinmec has a team of experienced doctors in the fields of obstetrics and gynecology, IVF, stem cells, gene technology, capable of synchronously and comprehensively deploying the most advanced assisted reproductive techniques today.
For specific information about fertility and maternity packages at Vinmec, please contact the hospitals and clinics of Vinmec health system nationwide.
Please dial HOTLINE for more information or register for an appointment HERE. Download MyVinmec app to make appointments faster and to manage your bookings easily.
References: babycenter.com
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